You guys kept asking for it so don't get mad at me for responding with the truth.
I have exclaimed many times on my social media that I am not a feminist, but here's the truth, I lied. My view on feminism is extremely complex, and in order to shorten my explanation I just tell people that I'm not a feminist. I'd rather not put the time and effort into explaining my stance so its easier to just say, "No I'm not a feminist." Here's the thing though, everyone is a feminist, well, a person with rational thinking is. Who in their right mind genuinely believes that women are not worthy of education because of their genitals? Or that they deserve to be beaten because they're "just women". The truth is this, any rational human being wants equality for everyone regardless of race, sex, or class. If you are a rational human being you will fight for the rights of everyone, including women. I am grateful for my feminist sisters in the past that fought for my right to go to school and for my right to vote. The concept of feminism is beautiful: fighting against the oppression of women. I am a feminist, but then again I am not. There are a few key points where my beliefs differ from the modern feminist. These key beliefs of mine are the reasons I say I am not a feminist.
1. Feminism does not fight for men's rights. It's called feminism for a reason. Feminism was created to help fight the oppression against women in particular. Women have been oppressed for centuries, not men. This is why feminism was created, because females needed equal opportunity. Many feminists will not agree with me, but that's fine I don't care.
2. Sex is not empowering. Many feminists believe that women should have as much sex as they want because it's "empowering". I flat out disagree. I personally believe that any sexual activity outside of a marriage is wrong, but that's just a personal belief of mine. I do not believe being sexually provocative is empowering. It is actually counterproductive. If you want to receive respect then you need to earn it. If you don't want to be called a slut then don't act like one.
3. I am against the murder of unborn children. Feminists believe that women should choose whether or not to let their child continue living, but I believe that nobody has the right to take away life. All human life is equal regardless of the situation. If you're not ready for a child then don't have sex. Guess what? I don't want kids right now so I am not having sex. I will have sex once I am married and am ready to have a family. And if you get pregnant from rape then you still have no right to end that child's life. Go through with the pregnancy and either keep the child or put it up for adoption. If you don't want the child someone else will, trust me. I know some of these situations are tough, but please try to find someone who will help you. If your child is forming with a disability please realize that it is still a human and they deserve love. There are many organizations that will help you with food, pampers and clothing for your unborn child.
4. Free the nipple is stupid. Having to cover up your nipples isn't oppression, it's called public decency. If you don't understand that then you are mentally impaired. If you want to show your nipples go apply to a nudist group and be nude where nudity is allowed. Just because you want to show your nipples doesn't mean I have to put up with it. Yes, men's nipples are not a big deal, Yes, women's nipples are sexualized. But guess what? You are fighting over two wrinkly dots on your chest. WHO CARES.
So there you have it. Those are the reasons why I tell people that I am not a feminist. I believe feminism is good. I believe that it is needed to help fight oppression. However, America doesn't need feminism as much as other countries do. Feminism is needed where women are beaten, killed, raped and are denied education. The women in America are severely blinded to their own privileges. The reason why Americans ridicule feminists is because American feminism has become a joke. The first and second wave were great, but the third wave is an absolute hot mess, and I refuse to associate myself with it. If you find yourself infuriated with me after reading this, that's okay. My life isn't meant to please you, the same way that your life isn't meant to please me. And hey, don't get mad at me, you guys kept asking me to tell you why I'm not feminist. So there you have it. The end.
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I live in America, and we talk about race a lot, in a good way and a bad way. You don't even have to live here to know that we have some serious racial issues. Out of the many problems associated with race, I want to cover a topic that is close to my heart. Black hair is very distinctive from any other type of hair and in my eyes it is absolutely gorgeous, I am a huge ally of the natural hair movement.
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