Wednesday, November 18, 2015

I Don't Believe In Doing What Makes You Happy

There is an empty saying I hear over and over again in my generation and that saying is, "Do what makes you happy". It sounds nice and fluffy, but it is empty and doesn't help anyone. I don't do what makes me happy, I do what I believe is right. People chase happiness but find themselves empty because they're looking at it all wrong. Life isn't about chasing happiness, it's about doing what's right. Do good for yourself and for others, only then you will find true happiness. This saying is dangerous because it causes people to have delusions about what they think will fulfill them. What makes a drunkard happy? Alcohol. But would we continue to allow a drunkard to drink when we know their life has gone down the crapper? We all know that the drunkard would be truly happy if he would do the right thing and fight to abolish his desire to drink because alcohol is ruining his life. We humans will find true happiness once we discipline our flesh to do what is right, and we all know this deep down. Humans naturally crave justice. We desire for there to be goodness in the world. We must fulfill that goodness by living exemplary lives of sacrificial love. We mustn't promote happiness, we must promote goodness. This saying promotes selfishness, and selfishness leads to bad things. A rapist loves to rape. Violent people love to hurt others. But of course we wouldn't tell them to keep doing what makes them happy, we would tell them to stop and do what is right. Happiness is spiritual but we treat it superficially. Our spirits crave goodness and once we subjugate the flesh to do good only then we can find happiness.

Tuesday, October 27, 2015

Am I A Feminist? Yes And No.

You guys kept asking for it so don't get mad at me for responding with the truth.
I have exclaimed many times on my social media that I am not a feminist, but here's the truth, I lied. My view on feminism is extremely complex, and in order to shorten my explanation I just tell people that I'm not a feminist. I'd rather not put the time and effort into explaining my stance so its easier to just say, "No I'm not a feminist." Here's the thing though, everyone is a feminist, well, a person with rational thinking is. Who in their right mind genuinely believes that women are not worthy of education because of their genitals? Or that they deserve to be beaten because they're "just women". The truth is this, any rational human being wants equality for everyone regardless of race, sex, or class. If you are a rational human being you will fight for the rights of everyone, including women. I am grateful for my feminist sisters in the past that fought for my right to go to school and for my right to vote. The concept of feminism is beautiful: fighting against the oppression of women. I am a feminist, but then again I am not. There are a few key points where my beliefs differ from the modern feminist. These key beliefs of mine are the reasons I say I am not a feminist.
1. Feminism does not fight for men's rights. It's called feminism for a reason. Feminism was created to help fight the oppression against women in particular. Women have been oppressed for centuries, not men. This is why feminism was created, because females needed equal opportunity. Many feminists will not agree with me, but that's fine I don't care.
2. Sex is not empowering. Many feminists believe that women should have as much sex as they want because it's "empowering". I flat out disagree. I personally believe that any sexual activity outside of a marriage is wrong, but that's just a personal belief of mine. I do not believe being sexually provocative is empowering. It is actually counterproductive. If you want to receive respect then you need to earn it. If you don't want to be called a slut then don't act like one.
3. I am against the murder of unborn children. Feminists believe that women should choose whether or not to let their child continue living, but I believe that nobody has the right to take away life. All human life is equal regardless of the situation. If you're not ready for a child then don't have sex. Guess what? I don't want kids right now so I am not having sex. I will have sex once I am married and am ready to have a family. And if you get pregnant from rape then you still have no right to end that child's life. Go through with the pregnancy and either keep the child or put it up for adoption. If you don't want the child someone else will, trust me. I know some of these situations are tough, but please try to find someone who will help you. If your child is forming with a disability please realize that it is still a human and they deserve love. There are many organizations that will help you with food, pampers and clothing for your unborn child.
4. Free the nipple is stupid. Having to cover up your nipples isn't oppression, it's called public decency. If you don't understand that then you are mentally impaired. If you want to show your nipples go apply to a nudist group and be nude where nudity is allowed. Just because you want to show your nipples doesn't mean I have to put up with it. Yes, men's nipples are not a big deal, Yes, women's nipples are sexualized. But guess what? You are fighting over two wrinkly dots on your chest. WHO CARES.
So there you have it. Those are the reasons why I tell people that I am not a feminist. I believe feminism is good. I believe that it is needed to help fight oppression. However, America doesn't need feminism as much as other countries do. Feminism is needed where women are beaten, killed, raped and are denied education. The women in America are severely blinded to their own privileges. The reason why Americans ridicule feminists is because American feminism has become a joke. The first and second wave were great, but the third wave is an absolute hot mess, and I refuse to associate myself with it. If you find yourself infuriated with me after reading this, that's okay. My life isn't meant to please you, the same way that your life isn't meant to please me. And hey, don't get mad at me, you guys kept asking me to tell you why I'm not feminist. So there you have it. The end.

Friday, September 18, 2015

The Stigma Against Black Hair

I live in America, and we talk about race a lot, in a good way and a bad way. You don't even have to live here to know that we have some serious racial issues. Out of the many problems associated with race, I want to cover a topic that is close to my heart. Black hair is very distinctive from any other type of hair and in my eyes it is absolutely gorgeous, I am a huge ally of the natural hair movement.
Now more than ever, black Americans have stopped relaxing their hair and have started to embrace their natural texture. For many people this may not seem like a big deal, but goodness gracious you are wrong. I am going to be blunt, black hair has always been seen as "bad hair". Of course I do not think this, I wish I had type 4 hair! But these are messages that I received when I was little through media and even through my peers. Being a mexican-american with loose curls I didn't grow up with the harsh childhood many black people faced because of their hair. There have been cases of black children being bullied in school because of their hair, and some have even been threatened with expulsion.
Although the stigma has been dying a little more, it is still there. Hair commercials always promote products that will make your hair smooth and shiny and pin straight. We see these images in commercials, advertisements, on hair product bottles, magazines, tv shows, and movies. We often see afro hair used in a humorous manner as if it's something to laugh about. I don't know if you have noticed, but clowns wear afros to add to their "crazy" appearance. We often see this notion, "Afro hair is so crazy that it's funny" time and time again. I actually have a modern example. The show My Little Pony for example. In their first episode ever the main character twilight has to make friends in Pony ville, twilight has straight hair.
When she meets Rainbow Dash for the first time she gets wet and rainbow dash offers to dry her by making a tornado of air around her; this tornado causes Twilight's hair to turn into an afro and her friends start laughing at her.
Twilight then goes into town to meet Rarity (whom is a fashionista, she also has straight hair but with one curl at the very end). As soon as Rarity see's Twilight's afro she yells in shock. We also see this example here in this video. If the link doesn't work I am sorry, this video received a lot of backlash because of it's blunt afro-shaming so it might be taken down. This show is called the Winx club. Some fairies played a prank on another fairy to make her hair into an afro and the fairy began to cry hysterically running through the halls saying, "Look what happened to my hair, normally it's straight. I was just walking down the hall and then poof, my whole head of hair poofed up just like that" and then she proceeds to crying. And everyone who see's her hair gasps and/or laughs. Just for the record, the Winx club episode aired in 2004 so it's pretty old, but the My Little Pony episode aired in 2010.
Enough of the cartoon examples, I have plenty more, but I want to get a move on. So the whole point is this. We live in a world where the majority of people prefer straight hair. Straight hair is seen as more beautiful and professional, while black hair is seen as the opposite. This notion is ridiculous. I constantly get comments saying, "Please help me, my hair is too big!" and here I am finding ways to make my hair bigger. I think black hair is beautiful, bold, brave and super versatile. Look at these black beauties. Taren Guy
Whitney White (aka naptural85)
Jessica Lewis (aka MahoganyCurls)
I am glad to say that more and more people are embracing black hair, even non-black people. Companies are noticing that not everyone wants straight hair, there are more curly hair products and natural hair products in stores. The first ever relaxer company, Dark And Lovely, started their own line of natural hair products a few years ago. Things are finally starting to turn around, but this is just the beginning. We should all jump on the natural hair movement as allies to change beauty ideals. You may not think this, but issues surrounding black hair affect you, they affect us all. At this point I can honestly say that I am excited for the future of black hair because it is stabbing beauty ideals right in the heart. This isn't just about black hair, it's about us rising as a people against the corporations and society to make them stop shoving beauty ideals down our throats. We don't like what you sell, we don't like what you show and we won't take it.